Whether we realize it or not, we’re selective about a lot of things — who we date, what we eat, how we spend our money, who we spend our weekends with, and how we spend our time. Besides, if we had no standards when it comes to how we invest our time, that would just be a big waste, AMIRITE?
Maybe you’re like me, you find yourself trying to stretch yourself thin, and attend to everything that’s presented to you. Can we call it the “I-have-a-hard-time-saying-no” complex? That sounds about right.
It’s the start of the New Year. We’re all in the super motivated time of year, where we evaluate the current state of lives, and see which areas we can do better in. A group of friends and I want to start a book club together, but with devotionals and reading the Bible. The truth is that there are a TON of incredible resources out there. However, I felt like my focus was being torn a million different directions. Instead of trying to do everything, I decided to invest in reading a certain few resources at one time.
Whether it’s dating, new projects, or friendships, quality is always better than quantity! Here are a few reasons why being selective is actually a GOOD thing!
It narrows down your focus from MANY to FEW.
As human beings, it’s only natural to only be able to focus on limit of things without getting frazzled. Imagine trying to focus on ten things at once. Your attention to each individual thing would lessen. You’d retain less information. You wouldn’t be able to invest in as a high quality of a relationship if you’re being torn a bunch of different directions. So, don’t feel bad for just choosing a few worthy options to focus on rather than investing in a whole bunch of things at one time. You’ll thank yourself for it!
By narrowing down your focus to just a few options, you’ve filtered out the options that aren’t up to par with your standards. And, we only want the BEST, at the end of day.
It helps you save time.
TIME = MONEY! How we choose to spend our time says a lot about who we are. By being selective, you’re actually saving yourself from wasted time. Just because we’re spending our time doing a ton of things, does not mean that we’re being productive.
Better to spend our time being fully present with the task/person/book/whatever else at-hand than to already be thinking about the next thing. Choose how you allocate your time wisely!
It helps you lead a higher quality life.
I think we’re over the whole idea that the more, the better, right?! That concept is outdated. Now, it’s all about quality. When you’re selective, it actually says to people, “Hey, i’m a person of value. Not everyone/everything will get my attention. Only what I deem to be worthy.” People actually view you on a whole different level when you have standards.
A high quality life invests only in the best resources and people, and doesn’t entertain less than average.
Mark Manson came up with this concept: “f*ck yes or no.” Basically, if your reaction is not as enthusiastic or as easily excited as a f*ck yes, then it’s a no. That makes things so much easier, right?
I get it — it’s easy to feel bad when we have to turn away and say no to certain things, but it’ll do you good in the long run. If you want to say “no,” say it proudly. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad abut your choices.