Am I the only one who feels that as we get older, we become more self-conscious? At least some of us anyway.
I’m definitely among that group for sure, and it’s a mentality I’m trying to get rid of.
When I quit my job this past summer, I decided then and there that I was going to go full-force into my blog and building my own consulting business. However, there was one thing that I was not so excited about.
I DREADED the idea of putting myself out there.
What if people think I’m conceited? What if people think I’m full of myself? Who does she think she is?
All of these thoughts, and MORE, were floating around in my head.
I was getting sucked into a dark hole of self-absorption, and was caught up in my own head, thinking that people were viewing me with a microscopic view and judging my every move. That prevented me from making moves, taking risks, and getting the word out there on what I was up to.
This was preventing my own brand’s growth.
For two years, I held back because I was fearful of other people’s opinions of me.
Now, in hindsight, I realize — because I held back, there were missed opportunities.
I’ve learned that 99% of the time, people are likely not even paying attention or judging you in the way that you think they are!
Lysa Terkeurst articulates this beautifully in her book, Uninvited — we basically start assigning meaning, thoughts, and feelings to people as a result of our insecurities.
Someone out there needs to hear what you have to say!
While you may be entering a market where there are others already pursuing something similar, nobody has your perspective and can convey a message like you can. That, in itself, makes you unique!
Granted, I’m not and won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but I’ve learned to be okay with that! Instead of focusing on pleasing everyone, I’ve started focusing on cultivating my tribe who do engage with me because my message resonates with them.
Instead of focusing on pleasing the world, find your community who’s for you. You don’t need to prove or explain anything because those who know and support you, won’t question your character if they know that you’re trying to make moves towards building a brand or business.
Find your tribe.
When I quit my job, I had no choice but to go all-in this time around.
I started created brand assets for social media and posting nearly everyday. I started sharing my posts on my Facebook (still less so than other social networks), but I hadn’t done that before because I was paranoid of what people would think. I started reaching out to people, asking to feature them on my blog.
This time, I decided that I was going to go hard.
It’s been two months since I made that conscious decision to get out of my head and stop worrying about what other people think. Ever since then, I started getting feedback from women from all over the world who have been encouraged by what I have to say.
You see — if you’re holding yourself back, people miss out on what you have to say!
If you truly are in it for more than the money and want to make a difference, your brand is just another means of serving people.
What will holding yourself back accomplish?
Your fear of opinions is blocking your success.
One way I’ve been able to overcome this is pushing through and constantly reminding myself — you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone!
Those who know you, know you. They’ll support you. They’ll back you.
Don’t let the fear of people’s opinions prevent you from living out your potential and influence.
So, if you’re some sort of innovator that’s produced a product, started a blog, podcast, online shop, business, or brand — whatever — be relentless!
You’ll look back and realize that the critics were just in-place to push you even deeper into your dreams.